Dr. Schmidt does not have the authority to marry or divorce people, and sees
much wisdom in the warnings of Jesus in Matthew 19: 1-12, especially verse 6.
Therefore he has never given up on a marriage or advised divorce.
Yet when people have filed for divorce, or are being divorced against their will, he is honored to help guide the
divorce to proceed in a healthy way.
Dr.
Schmidt has counseled over 1500 couples, and is the author of a
divorce-relevant book Coping with Difficult People (Westminster Press).
In his personal life during 2001-2, he navigated the white water of his
wife’s initiating legal divorce.
When he was led to partner with her toward that end, he managed to
avoid losing his serenity, his manners, his generosity, his shirt, or the affection and
respect of his three children, and he can teach you to do the same.
If you are going through a divorce, Dr. Schmidt can teach you how to:
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prepare for a custody evaluation (which is done by a
psychologist);
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have problem-free visitations when your children visit either
one of you;
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enjoy anger management, letting your anger guide and empower you
to
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focus it positively on correcting injustices,
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evoke guilt without risking rejection
(“kill `em with kindness”),
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start constructing the best revenge of all, a life well
lived;
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avoid pain-killing escape habits such as
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too much work, gambling, sex, or time with the
TV or computer,
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abusing substances such as food, drugs or
alcohol,
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unhealthy choices, such as falling in love too soon
on the
rebound;
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learn from your mistakes what each of you contributed to your divorce;
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teach your children someday to do better at marriage than you have; and
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start your life over again, with or without healthy dating relationships.
